We all get hung up on finding happily-ever-afters. After all, we were practically raised on them through our childhood books, and our inspiring movies. But this mindset can ultimately trip us up. Because in real life, stories don’t always come with happy endings.
Sometimes in the end, we lose the person we wanted to spend our lives with. We can’t save the person we wanted to save. We work endlessly to accomplish something that our whole heart and soul is invested in, and still fail. We still come up short.
These occurrences shake us – because they veer off script from the ‘happily ever after’ we had planned out. And yet we never pause to consider that maybe that our stories were never actually meant to end happily.
Here is the truth about grown-up stories: the best ones don’t always end happily.
They end truthfully. They end honestly. They end in a way that highlights and sympathizes with the core of what it means to be human.
The best stories don’t take us away to a magical world where everything works out for everyone. The best stories bring us back to this world. They teach us how to cope with the sometimes harsh realities of living in it.
The truth is, we all get so stuck on the conclusions we penned in our minds that we forget to just let our stories unfold.
Maybe you don’t understand the ending because you simply haven’t reached it yet.
Because you’re mistaking chapter ten for chapter twenty or thirty, and you still have pages and pages left to live through.
Maybe at the end of the story you end up alone. Maybe you end up with someone else. Maybe you end up somewhere you couldn’t possibly imagine from where you’re standing now.
Maybe you could be perfectly happy with the ending that you did get, if you’d let yourself.
Or if you’d simply stop to realize, after all of this time, that you’ve been the one holding the pen all along. ...
Date someone who is looking for more than looks. Date someone who wants to know more about you as a person, as a human being, someone who wants to know your story in all of it's messy, sad, and beautiful glory.
Date someone who is not afraid of minor challenges. Someone who doesn’t run away even if they have other options. Date someone who wants you enough to try a little harder, someone who communicates instead of dodging the issue, someone who chooses to talk to you and understand your differences instead of giving up because it’s easier.
Date someone who thinks you’re their idea of perfect despite your imperfections. Someone who sees your heart and how much it’s been through, someone who is also bruised but still believes in love. Someone who has been guarded but was waiting for someone like you.
Date someone who wants to be patient with you. Someone who stays when you expect them to leave. Someone who doesn’t lead you on because they were genuine about you from the moment they saw you.
Date someone who’s looking for quality because that’s the only way they’ll appreciate you, that’s the only way they’ll understand what you truly have to offer.
Anyone else will only like you under certain conditions; like when you are the best version of yourself, when you are the easiest to love. But you must look for the person who is looking for quality, who is looking for more.
You must, because they’ll always look for the things that other people don’t see in you, the things that matter. They will love the bruised parts of your soul, the dark parts of your mind.
Date someone who makes you feel beautiful, because they will make you feel seen, even when everyone else makes you feel invisible.
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